Thoughts and feelings about the world…

I’ve noticed that in young-adult romance novels—either in a book with a romantic sub-plot or a romantic plot—the girl always asks why her boyfriend likes her; she wonders why he’s not with somebody more “worthy.”  This blog post was partially inspired by Saving Zoë by Alyson Noël, a book I’ve just begun to read. The main character, a girl named Echo, wonders why her crush, a boy named Parker, would like someone like her. And I started to realise that her not feeling “worthy” of his attention was very familiar. This has been too many times before. Need proof? After thinking about it some more, I went through my books and looked at every romance book I have. Below is a list of books where the protagonist—a teenage girl—questions why her boyfriend likes her:

  • The Alice Series, by Phyllis Reynolds Naylor
  • Evermore, by Alyson Noël
  • Faking Nineteen, by Alyson Noël
  • House Of Night, by P.C. and Kristin Cast
  • Kiss & Blog, by Alyson Noël
  • Saving Zoë, by Alyson Noël
  • Twilight, by Stephenie Meyer

This is annoying, and it makes me angry that the authors portray their characters to have such a low self-esteem. Why can’t it just be like, “Okay, he likes me. Whatever.”? Why does there have to be a reason? Why can’t it just be what it is? I wish writers knew how tiresome reading the “What does he like about me? Why does he like me?” thing is.

The books are good, just not the chapters where the narrator goes on and on, wondering why her boyfriend likes her. And when the character questions why he likes her, she’s really insulting herself.

All the books I mentioned above have a teenage girl protagonist, and a woman wrote the book. I just wish that female writers would make stronger, non-whiny female characters.


Comments on: "Why Does He Like Me?" (3)

  1. I can see what you mean, and how it would be annoying to read that over and over. But my guess would be because that’s what we’re like. I don’t have low self-esteem, but I would still wonder why a guy showed interest in me. It can be overdone, but to have such a good opinion of yourself that if a guy likes you, you think “Of course he should.” or “This is normal.” wouldn’t be natural for most girls I know.

    I think, for most of us, it isn’t normal to have guys showing interest ALL the time, so we wonder what they see. But then again, I’ve heard that they wonder what we see in them, too. Perhaps the authors don’t need to harp on it so much, but I think they’re trying to be realistic, and what is more realistic than to wonder why a guy we think is fabulous would fall for us, when we think we’re ordinary.

    Sorry, longish answer. But what could be more lovely than to think yourself to be ordinary, and have a guy tell you in WORDS why he thinks that you’re beyond special? : )

  2. I can’t stand to read books with female characters like that. Women are stronger then those type authors seem to realise. Give me a self-confident, kiss my butt kind of female character any day!

  3. Sorry it took so long to read this but worth the wait! Interesting post and very well written. Makes me wonder if the authors think this is a common feeling amongst female teens and are simply trying to make their characters likeable and believable….

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